Whether you like it or not, your mother-in-law is part of your family. And while not many mums get along with their mums-in-law, here are some ideas how to survive the time spent with her.
A marriage marks more than a union of a couple – part of the package are the ties with each other’s immediate family members, especially concerning the other woman, or the mother-in-law. Need help surviving your mother-in-law? Read on.
1. Define Boundaries
If your mother-in-law is the type to drop by unannounced, it can get a tad challenging especially if your husband and you are in the middle of something or if you’re on your way out the door. It might be best to decide together when and most importantly, where the both of you would like to see her – her place, yours or out at a restaurant. Also, for the mother-in-law who needs to learn about boundaries, speak to her about needing your own space and privacy. If not addressed early on, this may get worse when the grandkids come.
2. Keeping Mum
If you’re the sort to always tell the truth, it’s time to take a step back and ask yourself if the truth would do any good of you’re going up against your mother-in-law. The truth can sometimes do more harm than good, so if possible, try to let go of the petty things.
3. Keep Her Out…
…of your marriage that is. No good will come of getting your mother-in-law involved in your marital issues as mums are to likely side with their sons no matter the problem. The last thing you’ll want is for your mother-in-law to badmouth you to your husband and worse…for both mother and son to unite over it.
4. The Grandparent Privilege
Chances are when you were young you were spoilt by your very own grandparents. A sneaky treat perhaps? Or maybe it was letting you stay up past your bedtime? Think back and you’ll probably remember enjoying yourselves whenever Grandma babysat. whether or not your parents agreed to you being given that free pass at the time, it likely didn’t do you any harm. So, if your mother-in-law wants to indulge her grandkids a little, maybe it wouldn’t be all bad.
5. Keep Your Husband in Mind
If you’re having a trying relationship with your mother-in-law, it may be time to think if it’s worth carrying on this way. She is, after all, your husband’s mum and no matter how difficult she might be, maybe, just maybe it’s worth looking the other way every now and again – for the sake of your husband and kids.